Aug 01, 2009 05:30 PM
ONE WAY AFFECTION
By Oscar Smith (Copyright 2009)
The core feature of any relationship is MUTUALITY. Mutual awareness is a prerequisite to establishing a relationship between two parties. Relationships are only possible with individuals, not with races, segments, populations or markets. The very first task in establishing a solid mutual beneficial relationship is to identify individually the party at the other end of the relationship.
I have a heart for people and with everyone I have a chance to meet there are characteristics that each one has that are unique. As a Chaplain it is my ongoing goal to improve the effectiveness of my interactions with the folks that I meet. As a business executive it is very important to establish a system to understand the needs of that particular business. Relationships cannot happen except in the concept of mutual trust.
There is absolutely a need today in this economic climate to foster many relationships.
Becoming that person who can be trusted provides a genuine sustainable competitive edge in business. Trust has become the number one currency. True professionals should not act in their own self – interest , we should act in the best interests of all parties. Becoming a trusted person involves making mutually beneficial decisions.
The problem with “One Way Affection” is when a party chooses to view their priorities
Through the wrong end of the telescope, relationship failure at that point is almost inevitable. The view of the issues under consideration becomes highly self -oriented and a significant level of trust is lost. Without trust a relationship will never take root and mutual goals will be impossible to achieve.
Years ago I turned my full time attention from making profits in business to making a difference for others. I have been blessed with the gift of communication and sales skills
And just like others eager to make a mark in the business world, I’ve had my share of success. My compassion for life safety in the home lead me to start A LifeSafe.com which is aimed at saving lives in a fire and other emergencies where advanced preparation becomes crucial.
It is an honor to give back without expecting anything in return. My wife Marsha and myself realize family, health, friends and community come first, if you have to lose or set aside one of the important things in life, we’d rather it be money and not the life of a child or a neighbor losing a life in a home fire! The money over time we can get that back.
Ultimately what shapes the meaning of our lives is not what we get but what we give. If we can make it our goal to each day find a way to add more value to others lives we’ll never have to worry about finances or business success. What Marsha and myself want deep in our souls is to feel like life matters, that we’re givers and not takers. We want to be people who can be TRUSTED.
